Therapy

FOR INDIVIDUALS AND COUPLES

Therapy is about learning to treat yourself with a compassionate voice. Pushing yourself with self-criticism to make your life better only makes things worse. Couple Therapy is about making your relationship the safe place where you can be truly vulnerable and know your partner is there for you.

Here are some of the reasons people come to see me:

COUPLES

Repetitive, unproductive fighting

Lack of feeling truly connected

Better communication

Getting over a “rough spot” in a relationship

Dealing with infidelity

Disagreements over parenting

Your relationship is pretty good, but needs a “tune-up”

Wanting to break-up, and needing a moderator to help you

INDIVIDUALS

Dealing with relationship issues

Dealing with the stress of your demanding professional life

Feeling stuck with important life decisions

Self-critical thinking that is interfering with your life

Recovering from a loss, break-up or divorce, or betrayal by a partner or family member

Self-exploration and personal growth

How I work with individuals

I use my knowledge of how we learn to be “men” and “women” to ensure that your strengths are valued, and you feel truly understood.

I help you discover and experience your true feelings about a difficult situation. For some people, feelings are showing their emotions. With others, tuning in to body sensations is just as helpful. Feelings often can tell you what you really need to make your life and relationships better.

I work gently but I also help you stay focused

I don’t allow you to wallow in pain or rage. That’s not helpful.

Exploring childhood can be important, but sometimes it’s not necessary, and we work on pragmatic solutions.

Emotionally-focused Couple Therapy

With couples, I often use Emotionally-focused Couple Therapy (EFT). It’s a short-term, attachment-based model, and has been proven to be effective in numerous studies.

However, I will be pragmatic at times, and offer tools you can take home and use when you hit the “rough spots” that come with being a couple.

I believe that fighting in itself is not the problem. The problem is fighting that is destructive to the relationship.

I never let couples repeat in sessions the fighting that goes on at home. Therapy needs to be a place for a safe, healing experience.

My goal is to strengthen your relationship, so it can be the safe place for both of you to feel true connection, a secure trust that you won’t be abandoned, and the place where you can count on your partner to offer comfort and soothing during times of stress.

MY VALUES

People have an internal wisdom that can sometimes get blocked. I help remove those blocks, so you can discover what is right for you.

Therapy should be interactive, and clients benefit from feedback.

Wisdom can be found in our emotions, but emotions can be expressed through the body when clients aren’t comfortable with displaying feelings.


We grow from exploring how we were socialized to express our masculinity and femininity.

I value working with a diversity of clients. I am LGBTQ+ affirmative.

Therapy should always be safe for everyone

You should leave every session feeling hopeful.